Sexual fantasies are part of your development as people, they are a component of human desire as visualisation is also an erotic stimulus. And this precisely is one of the main functions of fantasies that do not always materialise. And yet, their value remains constructive regardless of whether they are put into practice or not.
The psychology of sexual fantasies
Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed of any of your sexual fantasies? It is normal to have these experiences that are part of your privacy, and an element of development for a full sexuality. But you should not confuse the plane of your fantasies with what is real since, frequently, they are totally independent. In other words, fantasising about something does not mean wanting to put it into practice. It means that the pleasure lies precisely in the projection of what is imagined because, at that instant in which you fantasise something as real, you experience real sensations.
What are the benefits of these erotic visualisations?
1.They help you break out of the routine of the foreseeable.
2.They allow you to know yourself better from a different perspective.
3.They improve your health by reducing anxiety in the face of possible fears associated with sexual intercourse.
In addition, these fantasies can also activate the desire in your relationship, feeding chemistry and passion with new ideas. Keep in mind that fantasies have no expiration date, that is, they can also be experienced after 70 years of age, as desire is part of life. Fantasies are also conditioned by subjectivity, since what excites a person does not always matches what excites another. But just as a compatible couple has things in common at different levels of their relationship, you can also share affinities about sexual fantasies with the person you love and who loves you back. Some people feel guilty because they censor themselves by labeling their thoughts as immoral. This can also be associated with a very conservative religious attitude. However, just as sex is natural, sexual fantasies, which are a manifestation of desire, are also desirable.
In the horizon of your fantasies you can differentiate two types:
1. Those fantasies that you want to maintain in that framework of idealisation.
2. Those that you do want to experience as a protagonist in your life.
The first ones are an end in itself. The second are a means, a stimulus whose essence goes beyond that hypothetical reality. People who see said fantasies as taboo are those for whom it is difficult to set a barrier between the imaginary plane and reality. However, a healthy sexuality starts from the necessary non-identification, as cause and effect, of both planes.
Keep in mind that sexual fantasies do not depend on having a partner or being a couple, since singles also live these erotic visualisations. Just as sex is part of human nature, fantasies are also an element in the development of people.
And what feeds the desire? That which is accompanied by the mystery of the unknown and stimulates the senses. In many occasions, sexual fantasies are stimulating because, since they do not materialise, they appear to be distant and inaccessible before your eyes. What does it mean to fantasise? To imagine, think and experience a certain reality at an emotional level.