Such a powerful, mysterious and wonderful part of my body. But it took me so long before falling in love with it.
I wish I’d known more about it when I was a teen. I could have enjoyed things so much more. I wish someone would have told me that discovering my body, my pleasure, my sensations and reactions was totally fine and something I should have been doing.
I’d love to have known that, as a woman, I have such an amazing organ fully dedicated to my pleasure.
We’ve recently heard about the Orgasm Gap and that 75% of women do not reach the climax during intercourse (heterosexual women have the highest gap).
I highly believe this gap is due to the fact that we still don’t talk about pleasure, masturbation, or desire. Also, we don’t know the shape of our own body and we are not given any education on this area.
So I want to share my Pleasure Collection with you — A.K.A, what I’d have loved to know or hear when I was a teen.
It would have been amazing to look in my text book and learn that we have something more than a vagina and a vulva. If you don’t even know you have an organ, how could you expect to do something about it?
The clitoris has been kind-of-researched or talked about for a very long time: The Story of the Clitoris.
It starts with the Romans and goes on until 1998 and… it’s not over yet!
So it was 1998, and I could have found the “real” clitoris in my high-school text books but, the truth is, in 2017 we still have very few books mentioning the clit. In France we had the first text book with its real shape this year! Vive la France!
Anatomy is perhaps the first step in at least finally recognising the clitoris and its fundamental role for female pleasure. But the importance of female sexuality and pleasure is something we should find within our sex education.
What is female sexuality all about? How is it perceived by society and how can you experience it?
Last but not least, let’s talk about masturbation…or more specifically, female masturbation!
As a woman working in SexTech, as a friend, and maybe as a future mother (or auntie…or grandma), I’ll do my best to give teen girls and all women what I didn’t have to allow them to feel good, empowered, satisfied, and normal when it comes to sex and pleasure.
The only way we can change things is by doing something. We should all discover our bodies and love them.