What do 2000 women have in common? Many things, of course, 12 masturbation techniques included.
I’m totally not a fan of the “How-to” or “The Top 5 Ways To” approach when it comes to sex, because sex is way more than just a performance and, most importantly, there is not magic formula that will work with everybody. When it comes to sex, there is a whole world of sensations to discover, rather than instructions to put in place.
But 12 techniques are certainly a wide enough range of possibilities to not be classified into the “Instruction Manual” approach, plus the goal of the whole thing is to get women talking about masturbation and sharing ideas on how they do it.
A few years ago, the first biggest research on female pleasure, focusing on masturbation, was completed by the Kinsey Institute and Indiana University. (Thank God someone finally did it!) It’s from that research that the OMGYES project was born.
I’m pretty sure you’ve heard about them before: it’s a platform where women share videos about masturbation techniques and encourage the conversation about female pleasure (practice is highly recommended too, of course!). It’s a one-time subscription and the website is very clean, female positive, and shows women of all types and ages.
The researchers found out that all the various, amazing, creative and effective masturbation techniques women were using had many movements, concepts and goals in common and they gathered them together into 12 groups. There were not even common terms to name a specific movement or technique yet! Female masturbation has been, and still is, such a taboo topic that even in science or in everyday life we have no names to identify a specific way to please ourselves! Finally all of that has come to an end.
FYI: the most used techniques, which are based on the classification from OMGYES are used by 8 or 9 women out of 10, and contain the following:
– Rhythm, almost a musical loop of motions
– Framing, how pleasure is mostly between the ears
– Orbiting, a million ways to circle the clit
– Signaling, giving, and reading feedback.
I invite you to go on their website and check out all the others!
I love OMGYES because it’s opening up the conversation about female masturbation, giving women a great and comfortable way to inspire themselves and to experiment different ways to find pleasure. If I had a daughter (especially if I lived in a place where modern sex education wasn’t taught in schools), I’d definitely subscribe and give her access.
Recently, a friend of mine asked me “Why should I care about 12 different ways to masturbate if I know one does the job? It’s kind of a miracle if I find time to please myself these days”.
That’s a great point! If you are not a young woman discovering her body, why should you change something that works and is also probably quick, pleasurable and great? What’s the plus side of OMGYES in that case?
It’s extremely important that we force ourselves to discover our sexuality more and more, because what we like today will definitely change in the future.
No one says you have to like each and all of the 12 ways, of course! But our bodies change not only when we age, but also, for example, when we are menstruating. Our hormones change, and even our mood influences our sex life and taste. It’s so important we don’t get our body used to just one kind of stimulation because it’ll tend to respond to just that one way, and when we change, it won’t work the same way. (I also chatted about this with Alix Fox in my last article). OMGYES can help us to be creative in training our body and experiencing pleasure no matter what our age (women in the study are 18 to 95!).
So I want to say to all women: stay curious, don’t be ashamed of pleasure, discover your body and your emotions, and share them.
And if you are curious about what the OMGYES Series 2 will be about, I have a spoiler for you: internal stimulation, squirting and double stimulation are the topics of next season!!
Let’s spread the conversation about pleasure.